Showing posts with label hypocrisy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label hypocrisy. Show all posts

Thursday, October 4, 2018

How Porn Kills Love

For the past couple of years, sexual misconduct has become one of the most recurring stories on evening news broadcasts.  Top tier celebrities and politicians have been accused of rape or molestation.  People often wonder what would possess someone to take advantage of another human in such a heinous manner.  Studies are beginning to show that addiction to pornography may be to blame.
One such study reviewed the differences between men who view pornography and those that don't.  The study eventually found that "men who viewed pornography, report a greater likelihood of raping, committing sexual assault, higher rape myth acceptance, lower willingness to intervene in a sexual assault situation, and lower efficacy to intervene in a sexual assault situation". (Foubert)  Men who view pornography desensitize themselves to the fact that a woman is not an object.  They eventually become willing to do anything for a little bit of pleasure, no matter who it hurts.
Another study was performed to find how men reacted to different genres of entertainment.  While drama and comedy did not seem to solicit negative results, sports, pornography, music videos, and even reality TV produced violent and objectifying results.  These forms of entertainment in one way or another tend to objectify women, whether in the show itself or in the commercials.  These findings indicated that "exposure to sexually objectifying media is associated with greater endorsement of attitudes and behaviors supportive of sexual violence toward women". (Seabrook)  Again we see that men who view anything, be it porn or even just certain commercials, are likely to become more violent and careless around women.
The fact is that because of pornographic material, men have conditioned themselves to see women as less than human.  Think about it.  They are viewing someone else's body in the way a child views a cotton candy maker.  All that is on their mind is temporary pleasure.  The woman's body is no longer hers.  It is now an object to bring men carnal joy.
But are men the only ones to blame?  It is their actions we're discussing here, after all.  Men, believe it or not, have the ability to choose how they act around a woman.  But put into consideration the female porn stars, exotic dancers, and prostitutes.  They are willingly selling their bodies to men.  Seriously, are there no better ways to make money?  It's mind boggling going onto Facebook and seeing your feminist friends supporting such occupations.  "It's the only way she can make money" is their mantra.  No it's not!  One journalist put it this way: "Feminists have often misunderstood sexual prohibition. I am not advocating a return to the days of hiding female sexuality, but I am noting that the power and charge of sex are maintained when there is some sacredness to it". (Wolf)  Although it is definitely men's actions that are the problem in today's society, there are women out there, possibly unknowingly, promoting rape culture.  This just makes it more difficult for men to keep their hands to themselves. 

 Works Cited
 
Foubert, John D., et al. “Pornography Viewing among Fraternity Men: Effects on 
          Bystander Intervention, Rape Myth Acceptance, and Behavioral Intent to 
          Commit Sexual Assault."  Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity, vol. 18, no. 4,
          October 2011, pp. 212-231.

 
Seabrook, Rita C., et al. “Less than Human? Media Use, Objectification of
          Women, and Men's Acceptance of Sexual Aggression."  Psychology of
          Violence, May 2018.  

 
Wolf, Naomi. “The Trouble with Porn .” Times, The (United Kingdom), Apr.
          2009, p. 7-8. 


Thursday, March 30, 2017

A Simple Case of Hypocrisy



Written by Anna Kretchman (my younger sister)
Why are we okay with songs like "Shape of You" (by Ed Sheeran)? Why do we rage on about rape and abuse while jamming out to songs about objectifying people?
"Shape of You" came on at work the other day and I literally had to go on break and try not to just start sobbing. I couldn't get it out of my head for a good fifteen minutes.
You see, I know what it feels like to be seen more as a body than as a person. I know what happens when the "shape of" a person is the main focus. Nothing good.
So I cannot be okay with glorifying situations in songs, movies, etc. where sex is the main focus of a relationship. I can’t be okay with one night stands and “friends with benefits.” I can’t be okay with everyone being okay with these things.
Why do we all want someone to love us for who we are, and yet everything in the media shows us that it’s fine to just love someone’s body? Why is everyone so angry when someone is molested, when children are being raised listening to horrible messages set to catchy music? Oh wait, you mean it’s NOT okay to just want someone’s body? Then why is that a common theme in everything that we see and hear? Why is it becoming harder and harder to find anything “virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy” in the media when we all are horrified by what the media is teaching the world to do?
I can personally say that I’ve experienced someone loving the “shape of me” above all else and let me tell you, it didn’t make me feel beautiful or sexy. It made me feel violated. It made me feel like I, me as a person, wasn’t enough. So pardon me if I’m not going to listen to all of the popular tunes on the radio with you.